Comments on: What if…? http://www.accidentalmusings.com/2010/07/what-if/ Sun, 05 Feb 2012 22:53:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: amydpp http://www.accidentalmusings.com/2010/07/what-if/comment-page-1/#comment-542 amydpp Fri, 30 Jul 2010 20:52:21 +0000 http://www.accidentalmusings.com/?p=1845#comment-542 It's so hard not to ask them things about her...I fell like I'm prying being nosy, and part of me is, but I need to be proactive and make sure this person provides a safe environment. The high road sucks, yo. It's so hard not to ask them things about her…I fell like I'm prying being nosy, and part of me is, but I need to be proactive and make sure this person provides a safe environment. The high road sucks, yo.

]]> By: amydpp http://www.accidentalmusings.com/2010/07/what-if/comment-page-1/#comment-541 amydpp Fri, 30 Jul 2010 20:50:37 +0000 http://www.accidentalmusings.com/?p=1845#comment-541 I feel like I get to be the bad guy, cause at Dad's it all Happy, Happy, Joy, Joy and at Mom's it's all School Starting! I call no fair! I feel like I get to be the bad guy, cause at Dad's it all Happy, Happy, Joy, Joy and at Mom's it's all School Starting! I call no fair!

]]> By: amydpp http://www.accidentalmusings.com/2010/07/what-if/comment-page-1/#comment-540 amydpp Fri, 30 Jul 2010 20:49:35 +0000 http://www.accidentalmusings.com/?p=1845#comment-540 I am enjoying my downtime! I miss them, but not terribly yet....but when I talk to them I'm not sure they miss me enough yet. :( I am enjoying my downtime! I miss them, but not terribly yet….but when I talk to them I'm not sure they miss me enough yet. :(

]]> By: toywithme http://www.accidentalmusings.com/2010/07/what-if/comment-page-1/#comment-538 toywithme Tue, 27 Jul 2010 23:36:13 +0000 http://www.accidentalmusings.com/?p=1845#comment-538 Some shit is never easy no matter how you slice it up. Just think though, when they get home they will be missing you sooooo much and have a ton of new and wonderful things to share. In the mean time, enjoy your down time, me time, I can do whatever I want time because I only have to work around my schedule. It may be weird the first day but I'm sure you'll find you throughly enjoy having time to yourself. Some shit is never easy no matter how you slice it up. Just think though, when they get home they will be missing you sooooo much and have a ton of new and wonderful things to share. In the mean time, enjoy your down time, me time, I can do whatever I want time because I only have to work around my schedule. It may be weird the first day but I'm sure you'll find you throughly enjoy having time to yourself.

]]> By: Holly B http://www.accidentalmusings.com/2010/07/what-if/comment-page-1/#comment-537 Holly B Tue, 27 Jul 2010 21:06:32 +0000 http://www.accidentalmusings.com/?p=1845#comment-537 Yes it will be hard and when they come back they will be all about what dad and she did for/with them... don't take it to heart. They're kids, and you're right. They do need him... but YOU'RE the mom - they always need mom. Who do they turn to to make it all better? Mom-thats who.... and that's you! Yes it will be hard and when they come back they will be all about what dad and she did for/with them… don't take it to heart. They're kids, and you're right. They do need him… but YOU'RE the mom – they always need mom. Who do they turn to to make it all better? Mom-thats who…. and that's you!

]]> By: pixielation http://www.accidentalmusings.com/2010/07/what-if/comment-page-1/#comment-536 pixielation Tue, 27 Jul 2010 13:46:46 +0000 http://www.accidentalmusings.com/?p=1845#comment-536 Of course it's going to be hard, but the best thing to do is just do your own personal best, and be open and accessible to them. Don't be critical or judgemental about their father or his new partner to the kids, and let them know that you want what is best for them, even if it's painful for you.<br><br>This advice doesn't come from personal experience mind you - so I don't really have anything to back it up with, but i feels like the right thing to do. I know every circumstance and relationship is unique, so you're the only person who can really say what is right for you. Of course it's going to be hard, but the best thing to do is just do your own personal best, and be open and accessible to them. Don't be critical or judgemental about their father or his new partner to the kids, and let them know that you want what is best for them, even if it's painful for you.

This advice doesn't come from personal experience mind you – so I don't really have anything to back it up with, but i feels like the right thing to do. I know every circumstance and relationship is unique, so you're the only person who can really say what is right for you.

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